let’s talk about death

Posted in Blogroll, Introspections, Jakulit with tags on July 16, 2009 by walangmalay

death.

most often, i delve on this subject just to go extreme. changing topic is more like it. when i feel cornered or when i want to veer away from a boring topic. or simply, just in tune with it.

but the truth is, this is one discussion that i don’t get tired of.

death.

call me the authority on death. (tidum-tadah!) ahm, not really.

the “Poets” (that’s what we call our *clan*), during bouts of laughs and jeers, would laugh about the way our interment would go.

i told them, during my wake, i don’t want to hear any sad songs. i don’t want anybody wearing black. and then, i want a cheering squad to celebrate my “eternal peace and happiness”. and then of course, my parents and siblings would interject that they would not only invite a cheering squad but pay for a rock band to play nonstop until i am six feet under. that’s how they would celebrate my passing away. haha!

there were also those times when we would think of what business to put up. a business that would always be a “need” and would never go out of style. where we would all pitch in for adverising ads and media releases. then, the idea of putting up a funeral parlor became a very hot topic.

so, we came up with really morbid sales pitches: buy 1 take 1 for caskets, family package, reserve now and get 50% off…

morbid, morbid.

we were laughing so hard, really. i belong to a typical filipino family — just laughing our heads off when confronted with crisis. the pinoy sense of humor to the rescue.

so here i am now, being morbid once again. thinking about death. fave topic but seldom blogged. i just touched on this once, as take off, i believe.

anyway, this is one BIG secret (now, it’s not). i almost always think about death, if and when i say bye-bye, would there really be a heaven where everything is melodic white and shining? a hell where everyone is shouting the lament of pure pain and agony? a purgatory where everyone is purged of *forgivable* sins? a bottomless abyss where no one knows what is happening? a nowhere? a nothing?

i shared this with a friend and told her, if and when in the morning, i don’t wake up, i’ll tell her what has happened to me in the afterlife. if i don’t get back to her, then there’s nothing really to worry about. just eat, live and be merry. but if i do come back from the grave, i would at least tell her where i’ve been.

awooo!

now i wonder, would i be able to escape from the after-life guards?

just in case there is one.

hmm, morbid.

but am i really? there are three things constant in life: change, life and death.

it’s just that the last is a topic most avoided.

Kuya

Posted in Blogroll on July 1, 2009 by walangmalay

Sabi ni Kuya Rey kahapon, kung absent siya ngayon, ako ang may kasalanan.

Pero binawi din niya. Absent kasi siya kanina. At hindi ako ang may kasalanan. Yung umapak sa likod niya. Tsk tsk. (E, Lav, ikaw ba yun? Ahehe!).

Kahit naman papano, naguilty din naman ako. Hindi niya kasi natanggihan ang aking makabagbagdamdaming text na, “Libre mo ko dinner! Or else, itatatwa kitang kapatid!” kahit iniinda na niya ang kanyang likod kahapon pa.

Kidding, ako ang nag-invite kay utol. Umuulan kasi noon sa pinagtambayan kong mall na walking distance lang dun sa pinanggalingan kong client call, at medyo may “lagnat” daw ako ayon sa nagkuha ng aking temperature, kaya naisipan kong magrelak-relak. At si bro ay isang ride lang (kung magtataxi… hehe).

At dahil na rin minsan lang naman ako “maglambing” kaya siguro hindi niya ako natiis. Hehehe.

Nakakamiss din pala ang utot! Naturingan kasi kaming magkapatid, pareho naman kaming nasa “menila”, pero minsan sa kalahating kalendaryo lang kami magkita. Siguro sa isang taon, wala pang accumulated 48 hours yun!

Nakakatuwa lang. Sa sarap kasi ng kwentuhan, hindi na namin namalayan yung oras kung hindi pa lumapit yung waiter na nagsabing “last order na po”.

Ambait talaga ni Kuya. Kasi nagyaya pa siyang magkape. Akala ko naman, sa may istarbax… Pero okay na rin. Kahit anong libre, masarap! Haha!

Nga pala, hindi ko “Kuya” si Rey. Mukha lang talaga siyang mas matanda sa akin ng dalawang taon.

Ahehe, peace, bro! At sobrang salamat. Sabi mo nga, next time, sana kasama naman natin si Atenggot. Para may libreng hatid, bago maluma yung kanyang Chevy.

In Style

Posted in Shorter Stories on July 1, 2009 by walangmalay

If there’s anyone who doesn’t believe in second chances, it is my friend Madelyn. And if there’s anyone who has given up in making her see that it’s worth a try, it’s me.

I call her Mad, especially when she’s gregariously hyper which is most of the time. The name stuck.

We were the best of friends. The start of the school year, when Madelyn transferred at St. Clements in 5th Grade, our teacher, Ms. Gozon, seated her next to me. I instantly envied her pink Barbie-fad school bag which my parents said was too fancy for me and too expensive for them. Being her seatmate was not my only duty. Ms. Gozon appointed me to show Madelyn around, as well as make everybody her friend. I was the top student and my teachers had all the confidence on me.

Madelyn was so timid shy which my classmates took as being snobbish. And so I was stuck to be her only friend for the first few months. Months became years. From high school to college. We were inseparable.

I still can’t figure out how two totally different individuals who came from two extreme ends of society can remain friends for so long.

Madelyn’s family was devastatingly rich. And yes, you figure it out, we were poor. My parents lived and scraped for my allowance, and that of my two siblings. Good thing, I had Madelyn then who share her meals, and I, who share her my dreams.

College even strengthened our friendship. Somehow, I infected Madelyn with my study habits telling her that I may not have her luxury but I am bound to experience them soon after I graduate. She wagered and said, the first thing she’ll do when she does was learn to be independent. To live on her own. And so we burned night oils, and celebrated galore after every exam all expenses paid by Madelyn’s enormous credit limit. What would rich parents give their child who do well in school, anyway?

We were taking the same course, Clothing Technology. I chose it because my Mom is a seamstress so I feel that it’ll be a breeze to sew fashion. As for Madelyn, fashion was her style. No sweat for her.

But on the drawing table, I was better. Imagination, Madelyn was tops. Texture was my forte. Complementing it was hers. Making it work was mine. Making it saleable, hers.

Madelyn and I were not the best in class. But we were challengers. Two heads is better than one, they say. For us, it was verily true. We were happy just for knowing that in whatever we do, we can make it work because we did it together.

Until we landed on our dream job.

But Madelyn’s Dad wanted her to be part of their family enterprise; they own all kinds of things that float on water — ships, cruises, boats. All things sailing. She turned it down and went jobseeking with me.

We were hired by an international brand of jeans. Madelyn and I were separated by feasibilities, immersions and roadshows. One time, when we were both working at the office, celebrating our 1st year of regularization, Madelyn came to me and said, “Pam, why don’t we put up a boutique, you and I.”

I told her, it’s not yet time. We still have lots to learn.

But Madelyn wanted to be all independence. And so she resigned from work and put up her boutique. Her efforts, her funds, her imagination and selling ability went to “Lines”, a high-fashion minimalist trend of clothing sold exclusively in the most exclusive Class-A-catering malls and getting publicity dressing up news anchors and top actors.

She didn’t foresee competitors though. Foreign and new local brands all too willing to get the media endorsement. And her style was getting obsolete every minute.

I was in Hong Kong when I got her phone call.

“Pam, I’m closing the boutique,” she said with a sob. “I’m drained and I’m all spent out. Energy, effort and enthusiasm. And I’m not happy anymore.”

“But you know business, the first few years is the toughest. Ask your Dad!”

“That’s what I did. He said it’s time for me to join him. Manage the company. I already said yes.”

“A-are you sure? Let’s do it together, this time. Revive Lines!”

“I don’t know Pam… You weren’t there when I started. You don’t even know how hard it was for me to do it all alone. I’m sorry but somehow, I feel that your helping hand is a bit too late. I have lots of last last year’s inventory still waiting to be sold. It’s too late.”

“Madelyn… there’s still time. Fashion is a mindset and you know it. Lines has been a word of mouth and your giving up now?”

Lines is not making sales anymore, Pam. I don’t even know where to get the money to pay my employees! It’s over for me now, Pam. But thanks. You know how I want you to know that I tried.”

“I’m sorry, Madelyn, if I wasn’t there when you started Lines but I’m for you now.”

“It’s too late Pam, too late. I’m closing shop.”

The last time I heard from Madelyn, she said there’s a corner in two of their luxury ships that still sell Lines. Those last pieces that were unsold.

As for me, I have become my own designer setting up a small made-to-order gowns and dresses shoppe.

And patiently in wait for Madelyn to finally make what we have dreamed of a reality, for her to call me and say “Let’s pursue our dream! Dress the world in style and be happy!”

Or maybe, she already did, without me. Too scared that I’ll fail her, again.

Tunay at walang paki

Posted in Blogroll on June 12, 2009 by walangmalay

Araw ng Kalayaan ngayon! Pero hindi Independence Day ang gusto kong gunitain. Masalimuot kasing isipin kung totoo bang tunay tayong naging malaya bilang isang bansa. Kaya sa pagmumuni-muni ko, sarili ko na lang ang aking tinanong. malaya ba ako bilang AKO?

Ahm, hehe. Ibang tanong na lang. Masalimuot din yata ito. Nag-freeze ako for about 15 seconds. Nag-hang ba.

Ito na lang. Isang salita na paborito kong gamitin. Siguro dahil hinahanap-hanap ko palagi: tunay na kaibigan. Pwede na rin itong pang-Independence Day topic kasi nahaging ko naman ang salitang “tunay” doon sa unang paragraph. Hehe.

Tunay na KAPANALIG.

Siya yung walang paki. Oops, parang mali no? Paano magiging kaibigan kung walang paki?

Ang ibig ko lang sabihin, wala siyang paki kung ano ang sasabihin mo, ano ang magiging reaksyon mo, anong magiging pagtingin mo, basta nagsasabi siya ng totoo sa iyo at ikaw sa kanya. Yung walang ekek na drama na kahit isang linggo o isang buwan kayo hindi magkita, alam mong nagtitiwala pa rin siya sa iyo na kahit anong mangyari, isasambulat mo sa kanya ang nangyari sa iyo, at siya naman sa iyo. Walang taguan. Walang sikreto.

Kapanalig keyword: Tiwala
Hindi kapanalig: Ka-tsismisan

Tunay na KAKAMPI.

Isa pang taong walang paki. Walang paki kung sabayan ka sa anumang laban o proyekto mo sa buhay at gamitan ka ng panggising, pangsindak, pangmotivate, pang-encourage, pang-inspire, panggulat, etc. para mapabuti at mapahusay ka sa anumang ginagawa mo.

Kakampi keyword: Kumpiyansa
Hindi kakampi: User

Tunay na KASANGGA.

Siyempre, walang paki ulit. Siya yung tipong ipagtatanggol ka muna bago alamin kung tama ka ba o mali. Kung mali, pagkatapos ka na niya ipagtanggol, saka ka niya aawayin, babatukan, pagagalitan, kukunutan, sesermunan para maitama ka naman.

Kasangga keyword: Panatag
Hindi kasangga: Tambay

Tunay na KABAGANG.

Hehe, walang paki na naman. Wala siyang paki kung saan mo dalhin at saan man kayo magpunta — sa away, sa gulo, sa inuman, sa mall, sa shopping, sa seminar, sa merry-go-round. Hindi mo na kailangang ayain kasi tiyak na hindi siya tatanggi at gagawa ng paraan para magkasama kayo sa adventure at misadventure.

Kabagang keyword: Kuntento
Hindi kabagang: Kaladkarin

Sa ngayon, ito lang yung napatid ng malaya kong utak. Pwedeng madagdagan, pero baka sa susunod na long holiday na lang. Hmm, sa August daw, meron. Hehe.

Buti pa ulan, malakas… ako, hindi.

Posted in Familia Poets, Jakulit on June 7, 2009 by walangmalay

Iba pala yung level ng stress ‘pag bigla kang nagkasakit at alam mong may red alert (mas red lang ng kaunti sa red alert sa opis).

Last Wednesday, June 3, sobrang excited ako non. After 5 looooonnngg months, uuwi na rin kasi si Mumsy at ang mga Buentots. Actually, dapat June 2 pa sila dumating (at ako naman, excited siyempre) kaso hindi sila naka-board ng flight due to some issues. Niweiz, June 3, delayed pa rin yung flight nila ng almost 2 hours kaya June 4 ng madaling araw, alas dos ng umaga na sila nakapag-checkout.

Galing pala sila ng Virginia, US. Healthy naman ang dating nila. Rosy pink cheeks nga si Mumsy at superhyperactive din sila Yno at Deen.

Kaya alam ko na hindi swine flu yung nagumpisang lagnat ko noong Friday (at okay na ang pangamoy ko ngayon… hehe… di pa ko naliligo, obvious to myself). Giniginaw lang naman ako noon, at may konting chill. At ayon sa slides na inemail sa akin ni KJ, kasama sa symptoms yung stuffy nose (negative), cough (negative) at shortness of breathing (nyeta, e nung binabasa ko yung slide, hinihingal ako. sira kasi elevator sa building namin at kakapanik ko lang! sa 5/F kaya kami… waah!).

So wala akong swine flu. Ang culprit, ako din!

Sobrang natuwa kasi ako sa ulan these past few days. Haay, naiinggit kasi ako dun sa mga batang naglalaro at nagtatampisaw sa ulan. Kaya sumisimple lang ako. Lakad takbo ako pag umuulan. Every chance I get. Hehehe.

Kaya heto, recuperating.

Pero feeling ko, pwede na kong maligo.

Under the shower. Imaginin ko na lang na ulan.